382: Should I Move In with My Father-in-Law? | Feedback Friday

Relationships

Building genuine relationships requires consistent effort and a mindset of giving before asking. Gabriel Mizrahi emphasizes the importance of investing in relationships by helping others first, which prevents the awkwardness of asking for favors later 1. Jordan Harbinger adds that if you feel uncomfortable asking for help, it's likely because you haven't "dug the well before you get thirsty," meaning you haven't built a strong enough relationship 1.

If you're able to ask for things from some people and never from others, it's usually 95 percent of the time, a good signal that you just haven't strengthened the relationship to where you feel comfortable making the ask.

--- Jordan Harbinger

This approach not only strengthens connections but also ensures that when you do need assistance, it feels natural and reciprocal 2.

   

Etiquette

Understanding networking etiquette is crucial to avoid appearing transactional. Gabriel Mizrahi suggests that while it's sometimes acceptable to ask for help, it's essential to have a foundation of regular interaction to prevent requests from seeming opportunistic 3. Jordan Harbinger shares an anecdote about a transactional internet marketer who only offers help when he receives something in return, highlighting the importance of genuine relationship-building 4.

I never asked for anything without adding value to the interaction.

--- Jordan Harbinger

By consistently engaging with others and adding value to relationships, you create a network where asking for help is a natural extension of your connection, not a calculated transaction 4.