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Published Dec 13, 2018

133: Tom Bilyeu | The Secret to Making Powerful Friends

Jordan Harbinger delves into his transformative journey from shyness to confidence, emphasizing the role of deliberate practice and immersion learning in personal growth. He also shares secrets to successful relationship building and navigating the podcasting world, highlighting the importance of taking action and nurturing connections without expectations.
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  • Networking

    Jordan Harbinger shares his insights on effective networking, emphasizing the importance of building relationships before they are needed. He advises against reaching out with self-serving intentions, instead suggesting a focus on how one can help others without expecting anything in return. This approach has led to significant opportunities for him, as illustrated by his experience of moving to LA and receiving unexpected help from a stranger, which eventually resulted in a job opportunity for that person 1.

    You have to dig the well before you're thirsty and give without the attachment to getting something in return.

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    By prioritizing genuine connections, Jordan has been able to create a network that supports him in various endeavors 2 3.

       

    Maintaining

    Maintaining relationships without keeping score is crucial, according to Jordan. He warns against creating "covert contracts" in our minds, where we expect something in return for our actions, as this can poison relationships 4. Instead, he advocates for nurturing friendships authentically, without worrying about the payoff. Tom Bilyeu praises Jordan for his genuine approach, noting that he never worries about what he will gain from a relationship, which ultimately leads to more meaningful connections 5.

    Do not keep score because you are poisoning all of the relationships that you start.

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    This mindset fosters a positive reputation and opens up unexpected opportunities.

       

    Preparation

    Jordan emphasizes the importance of preparing and building a network before it's needed, a concept he refers to as "digging the well before you're thirsty." This strategy proved invaluable when he faced setbacks and needed support from his network to rebuild his show 6. Financial planning is also a key component of this preparation, allowing him to focus on long-term goals without the distraction of immediate financial pressures 7.

    If you dig the well before you're thirsty financially, you'll be okay later as well.

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    By planning ahead, Jordan ensures he can concentrate on what truly matters, leveraging his network effectively.

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