552: Will Storr | Understanding Social Position and the Status Game

Status Games

Will Storr explores the intricate dynamics of status games, highlighting three primary types: dominance, virtue, and success. He explains that these games are deeply embedded in human behavior, influencing how we interact with those closest to us rather than distant figures like global leaders 1. Virtue status, for instance, is about being perceived as selfless and putting the tribe first, while success status is linked to competence and achievements 2. Storr notes that even seemingly trivial pursuits, like podcasting, are driven by the desire for status, which can lead to innovation and personal growth 2.

The need for status, whether it's competence or success-based status or virtue-based status, all of the good that's done in the world is based on the strivings that people have for status.

--- Will Storr

Status symbols, such as loud fashion or large homes, serve as markers of high status, reflecting a universal human tendency to display wealth and power 3.

   

Status Trap

The pursuit of status can become a trap, leading individuals to make choices that prioritize perceived status over tangible benefits. Jordan Harbinger and Will discuss how people often choose higher status job titles over salary increases, illustrating how visible status can outweigh financial gain 4. This relentless chase for status can be detrimental, as it fosters unhealthy rivalries and affiliations with groups that offer status at the cost of rational thinking 5.

Smart people are actually really good at rationalizing and supporting a belief that they already have.

--- Jordan Harbinger

The allure of status can lead to irrational beliefs and behaviors, making it difficult for individuals to change their views once they are entrenched in a status-driven group 5.

   

Status and Happiness

Status is a double-edged sword, closely tied to personal fulfillment and mental health. Will Storr explains that status is relative, and even those perceived as high-status can suffer from mental health issues due to constant comparison with peers 6. The link between status and depression is significant, as losing status can trigger feelings of inadequacy and lead to severe consequences like depression or even suicide 7.

There's a very strong link between depression and suicide and lack or loss of status.

--- Will Storr

Understanding this connection can help individuals recognize that their mental health struggles are not necessarily a sign of personal failure but rather a reflection of their brain's response to perceived status threats 7.