248: How to Navigate Around a Hostile Coworker | Feedback Friday

Documenting

Documenting work-related conversations and events is crucial when dealing with a hostile coworker. Jordan Harbinger advises writing down important conversations, including dates, times, and names of those involved. This documentation can be shared with HR or other relevant parties later 1. Harbinger also suggests confirming plans via email to create a written record, which can be useful if disputes arise 2.

Write down important conversations and events that illustrate your arguments. Include the time, the date, the names of other people who are around everything.

--- Jordan Harbinger

Additionally, having a backup of emails and other documents is essential to protect against potential loss or manipulation 1.

   

Underminers

Addressing the behavior of an undermining coworker requires strategic actions. Jordan Harbinger recommends keeping communication transparent by cc'ing or bcc'ing the boss on emails to expose any discrepancies 3. He also suggests directly talking to the coworker in a non-confrontational manner and documenting the discussion 3.

If you're emailing Brad or if your husband is emailing Brad, cc the boss on email communication.

--- Jordan Harbinger

Jason DeFillippo shares a story about a loyal employee facing sabotage from a coworker, highlighting the importance of addressing such issues promptly 4.

   

Toxic Culture

A toxic work culture can significantly impact job satisfaction and performance. Jordan Harbinger advises focusing on specific behaviors rather than personal attacks when discussing issues with management 5. Bringing another negatively affected coworker to meetings can also help substantiate claims 5.

If you focus on his behavior, it looks like you're looking out for the company, not just looking out for yourself.

--- Jordan Harbinger

If management fails to address the toxic environment, it may be worth considering a job change to a more supportive workplace 3.