385: Can I Date a White-Collar Criminal? | Feedback Friday

Evaluating Change

Determining whether someone has genuinely changed after a criminal conviction is crucial when considering a relationship with them. Gabriel Mizrahi emphasizes the importance of assessing whether the person is open about their past and actively working towards a responsible life. He suggests that genuine remorse is evident when someone owns their story and consciously builds a different life from their past mistakes 1. Jordan Harbinger adds that understanding the nature of the crime and the person's response to it can provide insights into their character 2.

If he's demonstrably remorseful about his past, if he's open about his past, if he's actively working on building a more responsible life, that looks very different from the old one.

--- Gabriel Mizrahi

Evaluating these factors can help determine if they deserve a second chance or if it's best to move on.

   

Character Assessment

Judging a person's character after discovering their criminal record involves careful consideration of their actions and attitudes post-conviction. Jordan Harbinger advises having a direct conversation to understand their perspective and whether they have truly changed 2. He notes that how someone responds to questions about their past can reveal much about their current character. Gabriel Mizrahi points out the importance of distinguishing between someone who takes responsibility for their actions and someone who plays the victim.

His response is really going to tell you almost everything you need to know about who this person is now.

--- Jordan Harbinger

This approach helps in deciding if the person is worth investing in or if it's wiser to walk away.