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Workplace Struggles

Dealing with depression in a work environment can be incredibly challenging. Jordan Harbinger emphasizes the importance of maintaining performance while acknowledging the difficulties depression brings. He advises keeping explanations to bosses brief and focused on performance, not the cause, to buy time and maintain trust 1. Jordan also suggests creating a system of habits and processes to stay connected to goals, even during tough times. This includes automating tasks, scheduling check-ins, and seeking support from colleagues 2.

Your goal should be to acknowledge what's going on without tipping over into excuses or justifications. All you need to communicate is, "Hey, we're on the same page. Thank you for giving me a little wiggle room to get my house in order. Please have some faith in me."

--- Jordan Harbinger

Building deeper relationships and investing in them can also serve as an antidote to depression, keeping one feeling purposeful and connected.

   

Perspective Shift

Changing one's perspective can significantly improve experiences and relationships. Jordan Harbinger and Gabriel Mizrahi discuss how altering behavior and treating people better can lead to positive changes in how others perceive you 3. They highlight the importance of slowing down, engaging sincerely with peers, and balancing knowledge with interpersonal skills. This approach can help rewrite one's reputation and foster better relationships 4.

If you stop raising your hand so often, if you let your peers catch up to where you are, if you don't try to flex on everyone all the time, people will notice that and they'll realize that you've learned something and that you're willing to grow.

--- Jordan Harbinger

This shift in perspective not only aids personal growth but also enhances one's ability to connect with others and thrive in various environments.