334: I Was Supposed to Die Five Years Ago | Feedback Friday

Supporting Partners

Supporting a partner with a traumatic past can be challenging. Jordan Harbinger suggests reframing therapy as a joint activity to make it less intimidating for the partner. This approach can help them see therapy in a new light and understand its benefits without feeling targeted or broken 1.

You can also let him see how his issues are affecting you when you're talking to a therapist. This way, it's about him helping you, not about him being broken and needing help.

--- Jordan Harbinger

If the partner is still resistant, Jordan advises seeking therapy individually to gain professional insights on how to support them better.

   

Resilience Strategies

Building resilience is crucial for both partners in a relationship. Jordan Harbinger emphasizes the importance of leveraging support systems and reframing negative experiences to build mental strength 2. He shares insights from guests like Isaac Lidsky, who turned blindness into a blessing by reshaping his mental models.

It's a great exercise in reframing luck in events that seem negative to work in our advantage.

--- Jordan Harbinger

Jordan also highlights the significance of maintaining a strong network as a form of personal insurance, especially during challenging times.