873: Custody Fiction Leads to Co-Parenting Friction | Feedback Friday

Feedback Skills

Giving constructive feedback is crucial for personal and professional growth. Jordan Harbinger emphasizes the importance of addressing both strengths and areas for improvement when mentoring a junior developer. He suggests that providing specific examples can help the individual understand how their behavior might be perceived by others, thus enabling them to make necessary adjustments 1. Gabriel Mizrahi adds that receiving such feedback is a valuable gift, as it allows individuals to see themselves more clearly and decide how to grow 2.

It's so hard to see yourself clearly because you might have rocked it in school, but the teachers are like, I don't have to worry about managing expectations.

--- Jordan Harbinger

This type of feedback can be daunting to give, but it is essential for helping others overcome blind spots and succeed in their careers 3.

   

Team Dynamics

Navigating challenging team members requires a delicate balance of empathy and assertiveness. Gabriel Mizrahi shares a scenario where a team lead must address a junior developer's negative attitude, which has been tolerated for years due to his technical skills 4. Jordan Harbinger suggests that while the developer's technical contributions are valuable, his attitude needs to be addressed to foster a positive team environment 5.

You're not really doing anybody any favors by not telling him this. You're lying by omission.

--- Jordan Harbinger

The conversation should empower the developer to take responsibility for his growth, allowing him to demonstrate his readiness for promotion 6.