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Published Nov 5, 2021

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Jordan Harbinger and Gabriel Mizrahi dissect the turbulent dynamics of toxic workplaces, unrequited relationships, and challenging family situations, offering actionable advice for managing abusive bosses, balancing personal emotions, and setting healthy boundaries with loved ones.
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  • Toxic Bosses

    Dealing with a toxic boss can be incredibly challenging. suggests documenting all interactions and considering legal action as a last resort if the behavior is abusive and retaliatory 1. He emphasizes the importance of balancing the potential benefits of a lawsuit against the time, money, and energy it will consume. Jordan also advises having a private, non-confrontational conversation with the boss to address the issue directly and respectfully 2.

    I'm not going to sit here while you yell at me for something that could easily be a conversation or even an email.

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    Narcissistic Bosses

    adds that narcissistic bosses may react unpredictably to feedback, either by becoming nicer or more aggressive 3. He suggests several options: discussing the issue with management, learning to cope with the toxic behavior, or finding a new job. Jordan acknowledges the difficulty of dealing with a high-performing, well-liked toxic boss and recommends setting boundaries and speaking privately to address the behavior 4.

    If you find yourself working with Dan and he screams at you for making a mistake on a spreadsheet or whatever he threatens you for not staying late or belittles your opinion in front of your colleagues, in a meeting, whatever the toxic behavior is, I would first consider speaking with him privately about it.

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    Professional Risks

    Navigating professional risks requires careful consideration. Jordan warns that expressing romantic feelings in a professional setting can jeopardize relationships and careers 5. He also shares his own experience of signing a significant deal, emphasizing the importance of maintaining professional integrity and focusing on long-term goals 6.

    A revelation like this, it could make her working relationship with you untenable. It could upend her whole professional life. That's pretty serious, kind of a crappy thing to do to someone.

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