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Unrequited Feelings

Navigating unrequited feelings can be a complex and emotionally taxing process. Gabriel Mizrahi suggests that accepting these feelings fully and then gradually putting them away is essential. He emphasizes the importance of not ignoring these emotions but rather dealing with them in a healthy manner 1. Jordan Harbinger agrees, recommending therapy as a valuable resource for sorting through these complicated emotions 2.

There's a kind of, you know, healthy repression that has to happen when you have unrequited feelings for somebody.

--- Gabriel Mizrahi

Ultimately, deciding what to do about one's marriage should come before addressing feelings for someone else, ensuring fairness to all parties involved 2.

   

Marital Tensions

Marital issues can significantly complicate feelings of attraction outside the marriage. Jordan Harbinger points out that an unhappy marriage can make someone else seem more appealing, creating a cycle of dissatisfaction 3. This dynamic often leads to projecting idealized qualities onto the new person, which may not reflect reality.

Falling for Chloe and staying in a bad marriage are wrapped up into each other.

--- Jordan Harbinger

Gabriel Mizrahi adds that resolving marital issues is crucial before making any decisions about new relationships, as it provides clarity and fairness to everyone involved 2.