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Divorce Talk

Jordan Harbinger and Gabriel Mizrahi discuss the complexities of addressing past divorces with children. Jordan advises making time for a one-on-one conversation with the child, inviting them to ask questions and share their feelings 1. Gabriel emphasizes focusing on the child's experience and maintaining a balanced perspective about the breakup 2. He suggests avoiding negative comments about the ex-spouse and instead encouraging the child to form their own opinions.

It's about giving your son the information he needs to come to his own conclusions.

--- Gabriel Mizrahi

Jordan adds that this approach can open a new phase in the parent-child relationship, fostering deeper understanding and connection 2.

   

Financial Boundaries

Addressing the issue of financially demanding parents, Jordan and Gabriel offer strategies for helping young adults stand up for themselves. Jordan suggests having a rational conversation with the stepson about his mother's unfair financial dependence, emphasizing the importance of independence 3. Gabriel highlights the deep-rooted nature of such control issues and the need for patience and understanding when addressing them 4.

This probably goes way back. What a weird sort of like deadbeat, sabotaging mom, the whole thing sounds like a control issue to me.

--- Jordan Harbinger

They also discuss the potential need for direct communication with the parent to address the underlying issues and encourage healthier family dynamics 4.