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Published Sep 23, 2022

729: Sexsomnia Guilt-Free After PTSD? | Feedback Friday

Jordan Harbinger and Gabriel Mizrahi delve into the complexities of relationships impacted by sexsomnia, the red flags and legal issues of pyramid schemes, and the personal journey of addiction recovery focused on self-improvement and rebuilding family trust.
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  • Consent

    Navigating consent in a relationship where one partner has sexsomnia can be challenging. and discuss the importance of having open conversations about consent while both partners are awake and lucid. They emphasize that obtaining explicit consent during these moments is crucial to ensure both parties are comfortable with the situation 1. However, points out that the real challenge lies in addressing the emotional and psychological impact of past traumas, which can complicate feelings of guilt and shame 2.

    The consent question is almost the easiest part of this equation, the harder part is how all of this echoes this incredibly traumatizing thing that happened in her past.

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    Understanding and processing these emotions with the help of a therapist is essential for navigating this complex issue.

       

    Relationship

    Sexsomnia can significantly impact relationship dynamics, especially when one partner has a history of trauma. acknowledges the irony and complexity of a relationship where one partner initiates sex in their sleep while the other has past sexual abuse experiences 3. highlights the importance of communication and mutual understanding in such situations. He notes that dismissing the issue can exacerbate feelings of isolation and shame for the affected partner 4.

    Shame is isolating. It makes you want to withdraw, it makes you want to hide. It's a feeling that makes you feel like you're different and alone.

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    Effective communication and empathy are crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship under these circumstances.

       

    Solutions

    Therapy and practical solutions can help manage the challenges posed by sexsomnia. suggests that addressing both the trauma and the sexsomnia simultaneously might be beneficial, but it requires careful consideration of one's emotional state 5. He also recommends involving the partner in the therapeutic process to foster mutual understanding and support.

    If your boyfriend wants to manage the sexsomnia a little bit better, he might want to talk to someone himself, as you suggested, or at least get a sleep study done.

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    Exploring potential triggers for sexsomnia and seeking professional help can provide valuable insights and relief for both partners.

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