670: Vanessa Van Edwards | The Science of Succeeding with People

Neuroticism

Understanding neuroticism and calmness in relationships can be crucial for harmony. Vanessa Van Edwards explains that neuroticism, often misunderstood, is about emotional stability and reactivity to external events. She shares her personal experience, highlighting how her husband's low neuroticism provides a calming influence, while her high neurotic friends amplify worries 1. This dynamic can be beneficial if managed well, as it allows for leveraging strengths in a relationship.

You cannot change someone's personality orientation. You just can't. Our personality is 35 to 55 percent genetic.

--- Vanessa Van Edwards

Jordan Harbinger adds that recognizing these traits early can prevent long-term friction, emphasizing the importance of understanding each other's recharge methods, especially for introverts and ambiverts 2.

   

Social Attraction

Social attraction extends beyond romantic contexts, influencing professional and personal relationships. Vanessa Van Edwards notes that personality traits like neuroticism play a significant role in social dynamics, affecting how we connect with others 3. She emphasizes the importance of understanding these traits to foster better relationships, whether in business or personal life.

There's very little difference between attraction for professional versus social or romantic relationships.

--- Vanessa Van Edwards

Jordan Harbinger and Vanessa discuss the concept of attraction in professional settings, highlighting the magnetic desire to connect with others and ideas, which can enrich both social and business interactions 4.