233: How to Keep an Abusive Ex out of Your Life | Feedback Friday

Ex-Partner Issues

Handling an abusive ex-partner who claims squatter's rights can be incredibly challenging. Jordan Harbinger advises packing the ex's belongings in trash bags and leaving them outside, ready for quick removal if police are involved. He emphasizes the importance of not letting the ex charm their way back into the house and consulting a lawyer to understand the specifics of squatter's rights in your state 1. Jason DeFillippo shares a listener's story of dealing with an abusive ex who refused to leave, highlighting the difficulties of navigating legal and police systems in such situations 2.

   

Managing Fear

Managing fear and anxiety from an abusive relationship requires immediate action and support. Jordan stresses the importance of cutting all contact with the abusive ex, changing locks, and informing neighbors and landlords about the situation. He also advises recording all interactions, even if it may be illegal, to have evidence of threats 3. Jason adds that while changing locks might lead to claims of unlawful eviction, the abusive ex would need to hire a lawyer and pursue the claim, which is unlikely 4.

   

Legal Actions

Taking legal action against an abusive ex-partner can involve restraining orders and eviction notices. Jordan explains the process of pressing charges and obtaining a restraining order, emphasizing the importance of showing up in court to testify 5. He also discusses a listener's question about house title disputes, advising them to consult a lawyer and consider the potential stress and expense of legal battles 6.