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Support Balance

Navigating the complexities of supporting a struggling friend without compromising one's own mental health is a significant challenge. Jordan Harbinger emphasizes the importance of finding a balance between being supportive and maintaining personal well-being. He advises against taking on the full responsibility for a friend's mental health, as it can be overwhelming and detrimental to one's own stability 1. Instead, Jordan suggests establishing a healthy boundary that allows for support without sacrificing personal mental health.

You can only be helpful to other people to the extent that you are healthy and stable yourself.

--- Jordan Harbinger

Gabriel Mizrahi echoes this sentiment, highlighting the importance of self-care and the need to secure one's own well-being before assisting others 2.

   

Teen Dynamics

Understanding the dynamics of adolescent friendships, especially when mental health challenges are involved, is crucial. Gabriel Mizrahi discusses how these relationships can often fulfill a need for connection and purpose, but they can also become overwhelming if not managed properly 3. He suggests that these friendships might serve as a way to work through personal issues by helping others, but warns against losing oneself in a caregiving role.

Losing yourself in a care-taking role, spiraling out because you're trying to prop someone else up. That's the truly disempowering thing.

--- Gabriel Mizrahi

Jordan Harbinger advises teens to explore the reasons behind their attraction to troubled friends and to consider the impact of these relationships on their own mental health 4.