559: How to Say Yes to Post-Traumatic Success | Feedback Friday

Ending Friendships

Navigating the end of a friendship requires a balance of honesty and compassion. Jordan Harbinger and Gabriel Mizrahi discuss the dilemma of whether to let a friendship fade or to confront it directly. They suggest that while ghosting might seem easier, having a respectful conversation is more considerate. Jordan shares advice from Alisa Cohn, who recommends expressing empathy and being honest about your feelings to avoid leaving the other person wondering what went wrong 1.

"This is really hard to say, and I know this is disappointing. But I want to let you know that I can't be the friend you want me to be."

--- Jordan Harbinger

Choosing the right medium for this conversation is crucial, with phone calls being a preferred option to maintain a personal touch while providing some emotional distance 2.

   

Co-Parenting Dynamics

Effective co-parenting post-divorce hinges on clear communication and setting boundaries. Gabriel Mizrahi emphasizes the importance of addressing issues like dishonesty and setting ground rules to ensure the child's safety and well-being 3. He suggests encouraging the ex-spouse to seek therapy to process personal issues, which can indirectly benefit the child.

"If she's going to change, it's probably going to happen in there. It's not going to happen because you disapprove of her lifestyle."

--- Gabriel Mizrahi

Jordan adds that focusing on the child's perspective can help in negotiating boundaries, such as limiting the presence of new partners around the child to maintain a stable environment 4.