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Published Jun 30, 2023

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Jordan Harbinger and Gabriel Mizrahi delve into the effects of EMDR therapy on memory recall, examining family dynamics and sensitivity. They also address relationship trust issues, storytelling in partnerships, and the transition from military life to parenting challenges, providing strategies and insights for navigating these complex situations.
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  • Fatherhood Transition

    Transitioning from a military career to being a stay-at-home dad presents unique challenges and rewards. reads a letter from a former Explosives Detection canine handler who is now a full-time dad and soon-to-be father of three. He shares his concerns about re-entering the workforce after an unorthodox employment break, highlighting the skills he's gained in stress and time management, empathy, and multitasking 1. and Gabriel discuss how to frame this experience positively to potential employers, emphasizing the importance of confidence in telling his story 2.

    It's less stressful searching for IEDs than it is to do both stereotypical mom and dad roles and finish school in the few hours I have to myself.

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    They recommend practicing interview pitches and integrating these life experiences into his narrative to impress hiring managers.

       

    Discrimination Concerns

    Overcoming potential discrimination in the job market is another concern for this veteran. Gabriel shares insights from HR professional Joanna Tate, who emphasizes that it's illegal to discriminate against veterans or those with disabilities. However, she notes that severe PTSD or other disabilities might still pose challenges during interviews 3.

    All employees have a legal right to work in an environment free of harassment.

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    They suggest seeking support from career counselors or therapists, especially those specializing in veterans' transitions, to prepare mentally and emotionally for the job search.

       

    Supporting Parents

    Helping parents who struggle with mental health, financial difficulties, and health issues can be overwhelming. reads a letter from a college student worried about her mother's depression, anxiety, and alcoholism. emphasizes that while it's important to support her mother, she must also set boundaries and prioritize her own well-being 4.

    You are not your mom's parent. And you can't make her do anything she doesn't want to do.

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    They discuss the importance of accepting her mother's situation and focusing on her own life to avoid being overwhelmed by her mother's struggles.

       

    Breaking Dysfunction

    Breaking the cycle of dysfunction is crucial for the college student worried about becoming like her mother. Gabriel reassures her that she doesn't have to inherit her mother's patterns of addiction and financial instability. He encourages her to learn from her mother's mistakes and take concrete steps to build a different life 5.

    One of the great projects of life is learning from our parents' dysfunction and doing the work to not end up like them.

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    Jordan adds that she has plenty of time to figure out the kind of person she wants to be and to build a life that can absorb her mother's tragedy without being defined by it.

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