41: How to Charge What You’re Worth | Feedback Friday

Cultural Norms

Navigating cultural norms around who pays the check can be tricky, especially when comparing regions like Maui and the mainland. Jordan Harbinger and Jason DeFillippo discuss a listener's experience with a friend in Paso Robles, highlighting the awkwardness of deciding who should pay during a meal 1. In Maui, the custom is clear: the person treated is expected to reciprocate in the future, ensuring ongoing social interactions. On the mainland, Jordan suggests a more flexible approach, where one can simply offer to pay next time, easing any immediate tension and fostering future meetings 2.

If someone insists, let them pay and say you'll get the next one. It really lightens the load.

--- Jordan Harbinger

This method not only balances the responsibility but also strengthens relationships by projecting future interactions.

   

Language Sensitivity

The evolving use of gendered language in daily conversations is a topic of growing importance. Jason DeFillippo shares feedback from a listener who noticed Jordan Harbinger using terms like "females" instead of "women," which can sound clinical and dehumanizing 3. Jordan acknowledges the challenge of adapting language to be more inclusive, especially in the context of the Me Too era, where sensitivity to such issues is heightened. He reflects on the difficulty of finding universally acceptable terms, noting that while some women are indifferent, others are more conscious of these nuances 4.

It's okay to have evolution in words that we're allowed to use.

--- Jordan Harbinger

This discussion underscores the importance of being mindful of language and the social implications it carries.