59: How to Make It Clear You Just Want to Be Friends | Feedback Friday

Cleavage Staring

In a candid discussion, Jordan Harbinger, Jason DeFillippo, and Marni Kinrys explore the subconscious habit of staring at cleavage and its social implications. Marni suggests that this behavior is not necessarily rooted in psychological issues but rather a natural curiosity that can be managed with conscious effort. She advises focusing on redirecting attention after an initial glance to reprogram the brain over time 1.

It's really easy to reprogram your brain to do things. You just have to give an active effort to doing so.

--- Marni Kinrys

Jordan and Marni emphasize the importance of awareness and habit change techniques to address this automatic behavior 2.

   

Habit Strategies

The conversation shifts to general strategies for breaking unwanted habits, highlighting the role of awareness and environmental changes. Jordan and Marni discuss the importance of identifying triggers and making a conscious effort to alter responses. They suggest using habit change techniques, such as those from experts like Benjamin Hardy and Sean Young, to facilitate this process 3.

It's not that you're not allowed to look at it. It's not Medusa. You don't turn to stone and immediately everyone knows.

--- Jordan Harbinger

By focusing on short-term, intense efforts to change behavior, individuals can gradually establish new, more appropriate habits 2.