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Published May 24, 2019

203: How to Be a Good Mentor | Feedback Friday

Jordan Harbinger and Jason DeFillippo explore the intricacies of mentorship, offering insights on effective relationships, while also tackling house hunting tips, the complexities of living with roommates, and strategies for negotiating podcast contracts and monetization.
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  • Setting Boundaries

    Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining a healthy mentoring relationship. advises mentors to establish specific times for mentoring sessions to avoid burnout. He emphasizes the importance of setting goals with mentees to ensure productive interactions 1. shares his experience of teaching his brother to take notes and be prepared, highlighting the need for mentees to respect the mentor's time and effort 2.

    Make sure that you get all of the information you need. I will spend as much time, I'll be completely patient with you. I want you to understand everything we're talking about, but after this point, you are never allowed to ask me this question again.

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    Setting these boundaries helps in filtering out those who are serious from those who are not.

       

    Accountability Strategies

    Accountability is key to effective mentoring. Jordan stresses that mentees must follow through on advice and not repeatedly seek help for the same issues. He recounts a college roommate who consistently ignored advice, leading to the decision to cut him off to maintain sanity 3. Jason's approach with his brother also underscores the importance of accountability, as he required him to take notes and not ask the same questions repeatedly 2.

    If you're not going to take our advice, you don't have to follow our advice, but you can't just blatantly go against what we say and then have us get you out of this jam because it's just getting tiresome.

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    These strategies ensure that mentees take responsibility for their actions and progress.

       

    Introduction Management

    Managing introductions is another critical aspect of mentoring. Jason advises making introductions one at a time to ensure mentees follow through and do not waste opportunities. Jordan adds that if mentees fail to pursue these introductions, they should not be given further chances 2. This approach helps in identifying committed mentees and prevents the mentor's network from being misused.

    If they don't follow through on the introduction, they cannot ask for other introductions or favors because then there's wasting people's time. They're making you look bad.

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    Introducing mentees to one another can also foster a supportive community and enhance their learning experience.

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