30: Vanessa Van Edwards | How to Captivate with Social Cues

Graceful Exits

Mastering the art of leaving a conversation gracefully is crucial for maintaining positive social interactions. Vanessa Van Edwards suggests using verbal cues like future-mentions to signal the end of a conversation, such as asking about someone's weekend plans or expressing a desire to follow up on LinkedIn 1. She emphasizes the importance of a "cool down" phase, similar to the end of a workout, to smoothly transition out of a conversation 2.

You want to start mentioning verbally, giving them cues that we're sort of wrapping up.

--- Vanessa Van Edwards

Additionally, offering a soft compliment or using a humorous excuse, like needing to say hi to the host, can also facilitate a graceful exit 3.

   

Interruptions

Handling interruptions effectively can help maintain control in conversations. Vanessa advises using nonverbal cues like the "fish face" or a gentle hand gesture to signal a desire to speak 4. She also introduces the concept of "bookmarking," where you outline your talking points to prevent interruptions 5.

If you say, "Actually I've lived in three different places," they know they cannot talk until you've gone through all three places.

--- Vanessa Van Edwards

These techniques help manage both polite and impolite interrupters, ensuring smoother communication 6.

   

Networking Exits

Navigating professional networking events requires strategic exits to maintain relationships and avoid awkwardness. Vanessa highlights the importance of having a "wing person" who can assist in introductions and help manage social dynamics 7. She also discusses the challenges faced by women in professional settings, emphasizing the need for clear nonverbal cues to avoid misinterpretations of intent 8.

You don't want people to think that you're hitting on them.

--- Vanessa Van Edwards

These strategies ensure that networking remains professional and effective, even in complex social situations.