Healing from Trauma

Why do people easily fall into the trap of a victim mindset, and is it bad to be stuck in one? How can I avoid it properly? I often feel that the reason I overthink and have deep thoughts is because my father tortured and abandoned my mother and me during my childhood. This question is in relation to the episodes and clips: How to Find & Be a Great Romantic Partner | Lori Gottlieb, Unconscious Attraction Patterns, Dr. Paul Conti: How to Improve Your Mental Health | Huberman Lab Guest Series, Understanding Inner Voices, James Ransone, the clip Family Dynamics Unveiled, Episode 116: Listener Meghan P. Returns, the clip Unpacking Shame, the episode There Is Nothing Wrong with You, the clip Unseen Emotional Trauma, and episode #105: Coming Home to Your Body with Tami Amanda and the clip Overcoming Shame.