Communication and Vulnerability
Linda emphasizes the importance of being able to communicate and receive complaints in a relationship. She discusses how defensiveness can lead to resentment and suggests owning our triggers and sensitivities to work on them. Jordan asks about how to keep things in perspective and Linda stresses the need to have conversations about our vulnerabilities in relationships.In this clip
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42: Linda Carroll | What to Do When Good Chemistry Goes Bad
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Can you be specific about how to utilize active listening, and why it's important? My partner doesn't seem to think it might not be healthy or productive to allow the hurt partner to have their "moment in the spotlight" while discussing that person's hurt or concern. For example, if I come to him with something I'm sad about, he responds with comments about how I do that too, or how I do XYZ and it hurts him, or else he will bring up how he hasn't healed from the dinner with the ex. He also seems to consider every disagreement or discussion about relationship issues that need a compromise as a "fight," and he often gets very angry, starts yelling, and tells me to leave the room.
I have a question about this episode #550: How to Strengthen Your Marriage Against Divorce and this clip Overcoming Negative Interpretations. My partner doesn't seem to think it might not be healthy or productive to allow the hurt partner to have their "moment in the spotlight" while discussing that person's hurt or concern. For example, if I come to him with something I'm sad about, he responds with comments about how I do that too, or how I do XYZ and it hurts him, or else he will bring up how he hasn't healed from the dinner with the ex. He also seems to consider every disagreement or discussion about relationship issues that need a compromise as a "fight," and he often gets very angry, starts yelling, and tells me to leave the room. Is this a healthy way to communicate in a relationship?
When discussing the importance of therapy to work on handling his intrusive thoughts and cognitive distortions that sabotage healthy communication, he acts as if I'm only researching one point of view, and he dismisses the idea that he needs therapy. He argues that his feelings are his own, and nobody should tell him how to feel, claiming that it would be inauthentic to ignore his feelings because they define who he is. How do I respond to this kind of mindset?