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Published Dec 6, 2019

287: How to Stop Taking Feedback So Personally | Feedback Friday

Jordan Harbinger and Jason DeFillippo delve into effective strategies for handling workplace conflicts and the art of accepting feedback without taking it personally, while also revealing networking techniques to turn professional contacts into meaningful friendships.
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  • Insecurities

    Addressing personal insecurities can be challenging, especially when feedback comes from loved ones. shares his struggle with feeling self-conscious when receiving remarks from those close to him, despite knowing they mean no harm. advises that it's normal to feel sensitive about feedback on insecurities and emphasizes the importance of processing emotions before evaluating the feedback critically 1.

    If you're trying to eliminate feeling bad about something that you're already insecure about and you get feedback about it, well, that's probably never going to happen in your whole life.

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    He suggests that the goal shouldn't be to never feel sensitive but to manage reactions productively.

       

    Compliments

    Compliments can be a powerful tool for motivating behavior change. shares a Life Pro Tip about complimenting people on qualities you want them to embody, even if they haven't fully developed them yet. This approach, known as behavior shaping, can encourage individuals to live up to the positive traits they are praised for 2.

    Compliment people on what you want them to be, even if they may not live up to it yet, because when people hear themselves seen in a certain way, they'll be more motivated to act that way.

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    He notes that this method is effective with both children and adults, and encourages listeners to try it out and observe the results.

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