33: Will Storr | Avoiding Self-Obsession in the Age of the Selfie

Self-Esteem Myth

The self-esteem movement of the 1980s, as Will Storr explains, was deeply intertwined with economic changes and neoliberal ideals. It aimed to create more competitive and successful individuals by boosting self-esteem, fundamentally altering child-rearing and education practices 1. This movement, however, led to a rise in narcissism, which began to decline around the global financial crisis, shifting towards a more vulnerable form of narcissism 1. Storr's personal journey through this era revealed the myth of self-esteem as a "magic bullet," a belief he once held but later debunked through his work with psychologist Roy Baumeister 2.

I couldn't believe that this self-esteem thing that I bought completely, was actually just not true.

--- Will Storr

This realization challenged the cultural narrative that self-esteem alone could solve personal and societal issues.

   

Perception Issues

The clash between self-esteem culture and reality creates significant perception challenges. Jordan Harbinger and Will Storr discuss the empowering yet misleading narrative that individuals hold all the power to succeed, which can lead to self-blame when they fail 3. This narrative ignores biological limitations and the role of genetics in shaping personality, contributing to mental health issues when expectations aren't met 3. The idea of the "neoliberal hero"—a person who can achieve anything—is a cultural myth that pressures individuals to strive for unattainable ideals.

It's a long way down from the stars and when you reach the stars and you fall, that is going to break your back.

--- Will Storr

This myth perpetuates unrealistic standards, leading to widespread dissatisfaction and mental health struggles.