573: David Buss | When Men Behave Badly

Sexual Coercion

David Buss, a leading expert on evolutionary psychology, sheds light on the disturbing reality of sexual coercion. He emphasizes the psychological damage it inflicts, causing anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress, and highlights the importance of understanding both the causes and defenses against it 1. Buss challenges the stereotype that sexual assaulters are societal "losers," pointing out that many are successful individuals who exploit their power to evade consequences 2.

Sexual assault is just one of the — if not the most, one of the most horrific things that you can do to another individual.

--- David Buss

He argues that addressing sexual coercion requires a societal effort, not just a focus on women as victims 1.

   

Prevention Strategies

Preventing sexual violence involves both personal and societal strategies. Buss discusses the concept of "soft rejections," where women use indirect methods to avoid potential retaliation from men, highlighting the uncomfortable position women often find themselves in 3. He also stresses the importance of empathy, suggesting that men who have personal connections to victims are more likely to understand the trauma of sexual violence 4.

Men have to be part of the solution, and it's not just half the population.

--- David Buss

Buss advocates for changes in sexual harassment policies, emphasizing shared responsibility in preventing harassment and violence 4.

   

Victim Support

Supporting victims of sexual assault requires understanding the psychological impact and providing robust social support. Buss explains how abusive relationships often involve tactics that isolate victims, making it harder for them to seek help 5. He highlights the role of social networks as a crucial defense against abuse, noting that isolation can exacerbate the cycle of violence 5.

Historically, women did have those [bodyguards]. They lived in extended kin groups where they had uncles, fathers, brothers, et cetera, who cared about them.

--- David Buss

Buss also discusses the phenomenon of stalking, where perpetrators often target individuals of higher mate value, using intimidation to maintain control 6.